Posts in Violence
Military Man to Polyamorous Bodyworker

I wore a military uniform for 18 years of my life. The journey to hang it in the closet, and don the apparel of a festival-going, peace-loving, feelings-oriented, openly polyamorous and queer bodyworker, forced me to confront a lot of the messages I received about what it means to be a real man in the eyes of my fellow servicemen, my military family, and myself.

…A soft groan escaped my lips. It wasn’t of pleasure or pain. It was a groan of remembering.

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Reclaiming My Ass After Rape

I felt like no one cared when I was raped. As a boy in the 80s, and man in the 90s, I got the message to stay quiet about my sexual trauma…I certainly hadn’t expected butt plugs to be integral to my bodily and spiritual healing journey.

…A soft groan escaped my lips. It wasn’t of pleasure or pain. It was a groan of remembering.

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White Knight Syndrome Ruined My Marriage

How had I gotten to the point of possibly becoming a father just because my wife wanted to? 

I took a hard look at my people-pleasing or “White Knight” tendencies, and ultimately found how to “dismount” from that seemingly glorious, but ultimately self-defeating, role in my relationships.

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