What is Real Men Share?
Real Men Share is a place for men, anonymously or not, to share vulnerably with other men who want to listen, support, and help them grow. Real men, as in actual men, not just how it looks on TV. Real men, as in, we all get to decide what that means, and if such a thing exists. Learn more about our mission here.
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categories
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Eating, Working Out, Fatness, Fashion
family
Dad, Stepdad, Son, Grandson, Brother
friendship
I’ve got your back
frats & gangs
Brotherhood, Hook Up Culture, Partying
mental health
Depression, Anxiety, Trauma, Abuse, Drugs & Alcohol
money & success
Failure, Providing, Broke, Ambition
military
Soldier, Veteran, War, Duty
porn
Masturbation, Kink, Addiction
prison
Crime, Jail, Ex-Convict
religion, culture, race
Coming of Age Ceremonies, Traditional Gender Roles
sex & relationships
Consent, The Friend Zone, Break Ups
sexuality
Straight, Gay, Bisexual, Queer, Questioning…
sports
Competition, Hazing, Defeat
Violence
Fights, Guns, Bullying
workplace
Bosses, Harassment, Professionalism
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Featured Article:
the kinky ‘Good guy’ dilemma
by Corbon Dallas
“..Truth is, I’ve masturbated to a simulated non-consensual, gangbang in a bathroom. But I also would never intentionally hurt her...”
Corbon grapples with his kinky, degrading sex life and the fact that he’s also kind of a sweet guy - and even has become a real listener and support for some of the women he’s been with who have sexually traumatic histories. But...he’s not sure he deserves to feel like such a “good guy” in the end. Click here to read Corbon’s full story.
sample Discussion Questions:
Have you ever judged, or been judged, by a partner for your sexual fantasies?
Do you ever feel like you’re “faking” being a “good guy” because of your degrading fantasies?
How does Real Men Share work?
1. You submit your real story.
You (person who identifies as a man) share a story about your life that you think will resonate with other men, or about which you want feedback. You can be anonymous or not. Click here to submit a story.
2. Your story gets context.
We select stories that we think will be most helpful for other men to read and discuss. We’ll intro your story with some context and discussion questions for processing — solo, with friends, or in a men’s group.
3. Your story sparks a wider discussion.
4. see your story’s impact.
Zach founded Real Men Share because of his own experience connecting with men who had read his personal essays about masculinity; it changed and healed him. Read a Letter from a Founder here.
We don’t want to condemn masculinity. We want to reclaim it. Please help us do that.
Submit your story.
You may submit your story using the form below. Please submit your own true, personal story. We understand of course that it is from your perspective, and so there may be other facts or perspectives on the story, but please, we ask that you share as truthfully as you can, otherwise it’s just not as useful to other men.
If you don’t want to use the form, you may also submit your story by emailing editors.realmenshare (at) gmail.com. Please include the most relevant Conversation Topic in the Subject Line.
Thank you for sharing your story with other men! We look forward to reading it.
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